Comments on: Wholeness http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/ Jason Dufair's weblog Sat, 22 Nov 2008 06:07:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Kat http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4817 Kat Thu, 24 May 2007 03:48:22 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4817 There's another school of thought called Imago therapy that's very similar to what you are talking about. It talks in terms of development being a spiral and when you are injured somewhere on it, you keep dealing with those issues until you figure out how to get beyond them. You even tend to pick people who thwart you in those areas because you need them to heal yourself. My husband and I have used it alot in couples work and found that it really resonated with us and our problems. Welcome onto the bus, Jasey boy There’s another school of thought called Imago therapy that’s very similar to what you are talking about. It talks in terms of development being a spiral and when you are injured somewhere on it, you keep dealing with those issues until you figure out how to get beyond them. You even tend to pick people who thwart you in those areas because you need them to heal yourself.

My husband and I have used it alot in couples work and found that it really resonated with us and our problems.

Welcome onto the bus, Jasey boy

]]> By: jessica http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4812 jessica Tue, 22 May 2007 20:28:40 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4812 Glad to know ya, fellow tribesman. Quite an honor. What a great post- successful birth! ;-) ~jessica Glad to know ya, fellow tribesman. Quite an honor. What a great post- successful birth!
;-)
~jessica

]]> By: venessa http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4808 venessa Tue, 22 May 2007 13:28:12 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4808 Wholeness is a nice idea. Still trying to figure out what that would look like for me. Wholeness is a nice idea. Still trying to figure out what that would look like for me.

]]> By: thordora http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4807 thordora Tue, 22 May 2007 11:54:40 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4807 I remember reading about the "stuck" theory when I was younger, and it really resonated with me, because I KNEW I was stuck, in some ways, at 11. It's taken many years to "unstick" myself, and I still fight with it. There will always be a mini me who will be 11 and lonely and sad, curled up in a corner. But she's ok with that, because what happened sucked, and we can always mourn that. But she mostly stays in her corner, and we're good with that. I've always believed that things happen within their own time. Even finding your true wishes. :) I remember reading about the “stuck” theory when I was younger, and it really resonated with me, because I KNEW I was stuck, in some ways, at 11. It’s taken many years to “unstick” myself, and I still fight with it.

There will always be a mini me who will be 11 and lonely and sad, curled up in a corner. But she’s ok with that, because what happened sucked, and we can always mourn that. But she mostly stays in her corner, and we’re good with that.

I’ve always believed that things happen within their own time. Even finding your true wishes. :)

]]> By: karrie http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4806 karrie Tue, 22 May 2007 10:45:26 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4806 Kiefer has always sorta done it for me. I'm glad you had such a positive experience dipping back into the dating pool. She sounds like a class act. Kiefer has always sorta done it for me.

I’m glad you had such a positive experience dipping back into the dating pool. She sounds like a class act.

]]> By: bine http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4805 bine Tue, 22 May 2007 08:48:05 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/05/21/wholeness/#comment-4805 oh, jase. wow. i don’t know what to say. i wasn’t familiar with that IFS idea of “subpersonalities” but i might introduce you and jasey boy to davey and carah - aged 15 and 16 - one day. we’ve gotten along pretty well for the last twenty and some years, i wouldn’t exactly call them “my demons”, they just keep reminding me of lessons learned badly. it’s amazing how you work with this. the idea of wholeness agrees with my picture, too. i never strived for perfection (i like the fact that the amish often include a little mismatched patch into their quilt patterns, because striving for perfection would be defying god). but feeling whole has always been something i aimed at. it sounds like you’re getting there. thank for for sharing - or rather introducing :-) oh, jase. wow. i don’t know what to say.

i wasn’t familiar with that IFS idea of “subpersonalities” but i might introduce you and jasey boy to davey and carah - aged 15 and 16 - one day. we’ve gotten along pretty well for the last twenty and some years, i wouldn’t exactly call them “my demons”, they just keep reminding me of lessons learned badly.

it’s amazing how you work with this. the idea of wholeness agrees with my picture, too. i never strived for perfection (i like the fact that the amish often include a little mismatched patch into their quilt patterns, because striving for perfection would be defying god). but feeling whole has always been something i aimed at.
it sounds like you’re getting there.
thank for for sharing - or rather introducing :-)

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