This is a tree that grows a few feet away from Anna’s grave. It’s three trees, two separate species, that have grown into one. I see it representing my three kids who are looking over their mom, watching out for her.
When Anna’s sister and I picked her gravesite, we knew what area of the cemetery she had wanted, but she never chose an actual plot. Who could? We were out there in the pouring rain, V and I, huddling under one umbrella on a Thursday morning in early August, 4 days after she died, trying to find a good spot. We went on both sides of the hill and just had a hell of a time trying to make a decision about this entirely unwelcome undertaking. Without warning, the rain let up. We both looked at one another and knew the spot we were standing in was to be the spot.
I’m not superstitious, but I do think Anna chose the spot for us. It had to be by the tree. One Safe Place. We just couldn’t have known until we knew.
Over time, Anna’s body will become part of and give life to that tree, just like her body created, gave life to, and nurtured my kids.
More about this tree coming soon…
Amy
| 17-May-07 at 4:42 pm | Permalink
Thats such a beautiful thought. I’m sure Anna must have chosen that spot. It couldn’t be more perfect
Mrs. Chicken
| 17-May-07 at 7:31 pm | Permalink
There are two trees like this right over my father’s grave. We chose the site because it reminded us of our parents embracing.
Every time I go to the cemetery, the bells at the chapel ring. I’m certain it is my dad.
This is so lovely. You are so strong.
jessica
| 17-May-07 at 11:55 pm | Permalink
One safe place, my friend… catch it only in dreams sometimes for now, but it will be back again in reality, I promise- for both of us. Really-really. Settle into some of the dust of your soul for now and maybe do some spring cleaning… bright days lie just ahead~ they need a shiny place to reflect…
*that’s an unwritten song, maybe!*
jessica
| 17-May-07 at 11:56 pm | Permalink
ps) You put Lowen and Navarro in your album spot- so cool!!! I really like how you did that… how did you do that?!!!
jase
| 18-May-07 at 8:27 am | Permalink
Jessica - those are indeed the makings of a great song. Perhaps I need to grab a microphone.
The albums on the side appear automatically based on what I listened to most recently on Rhapsody. “If I Was the Rain” pretty well killed me yesterday. It was so rich.
thordora
| 20-May-07 at 10:49 am | Permalink
All my mother has is weeds….I’ve tried to convince my father to plant something, but he won’t.
I think next time I’m home, I’ll plant her something…
A Few Good Memes :: Family Tree, Part 2
| 22-Jun-07 at 8:34 am | Permalink
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