Comments on: High Tide on Grief Beach http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/ Jason Dufair's weblog Sat, 22 Nov 2008 05:02:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: jase http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1878 jase Fri, 19 Jan 2007 19:50:41 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1878 Puddle - thanks for the reassurance. Btw, what's a chook? Venessa - Thanks for the prayer. Seriously. It must be helping. I'm doing better today. Kat - thanks for the bit about your sister. The unexpected triggers are the toughest, for sure. Catch me off my guard. The second time, the same trigger isn't so rough. Karrie - thank you, my friend. Puddle - thanks for the reassurance. Btw, what’s a chook?

Venessa - Thanks for the prayer. Seriously. It must be helping. I’m doing better today.

Kat - thanks for the bit about your sister. The unexpected triggers are the toughest, for sure. Catch me off my guard. The second time, the same trigger isn’t so rough.

Karrie - thank you, my friend.

]]> By: karrie http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1856 karrie Thu, 18 Jan 2007 12:01:47 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1856 (((((((((((((Jason)))))))))))))))))))) (((((((((((((Jason))))))))))))))))))))

]]> By: Kat http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1821 Kat Tue, 16 Jan 2007 15:05:12 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1821 Jase, my sister's husband died a little over 3 years ago now. Cancer. Compounding things,my sister and her kids went through a huge upheaval simply because they were living where he was stationed for Coca-Cola. It's just now that my sister is finding someone to spend time with and I know that it's hard still. That something minor happens - something her husband would have handled or something they would have laughed over - and a fresh tide of grief comes rushing in. It takes time - more time that we want to allow it. We want the pain over with and instead it sneaks up and whacks you on the back of the head. I'm sorry that it's catching you right now. It really sounds like you are coping really well. That you have done a wonderful job of piecing things back together and hanging on for those cute kids. Jase, my sister’s husband died a little over 3 years ago now. Cancer. Compounding things,my sister and her kids went through a huge upheaval simply because they were living where he was stationed for Coca-Cola. It’s just now that my sister is finding someone to spend time with and I know that it’s hard still. That something minor happens - something her husband would have handled or something they would have laughed over - and a fresh tide of grief comes rushing in.

It takes time - more time that we want to allow it. We want the pain over with and instead it sneaks up and whacks you on the back of the head.

I’m sorry that it’s catching you right now. It really sounds like you are coping really well. That you have done a wonderful job of piecing things back together and hanging on for those cute kids.

]]> By: venessa http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1820 venessa Tue, 16 Jan 2007 14:10:51 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1820 I don't know what to say. I'll say a prayer for you. I don’t know what to say. I’ll say a prayer for you.

]]> By: Puddlejumper http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1818 Puddlejumper Tue, 16 Jan 2007 13:27:29 +0000 http://jase.dufair.org/2007/01/15/high-tide-on-grief-beach/#comment-1818 Hey chook. Sorry to hear about your grandfather. As for feeling guilty...Don't be too hard on yourself. Its only been six-months. You're quite entitled to still be grieving. Give yourself as long as it takes. And give yourself a big pat on the back from me. You're coping so well with your kids. I can't begin to imagine how hard it must be to even keep up with the simple day-to-day stuff. You're doing fine. Hey chook.

Sorry to hear about your grandfather.

As for feeling guilty…Don’t be too hard on yourself. Its only been six-months. You’re quite entitled to still be grieving. Give yourself as long as it takes.

And give yourself a big pat on the back from me. You’re coping so well with your kids. I can’t begin to imagine how hard it must be to even keep up with the simple day-to-day stuff.

You’re doing fine.

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